So last night I was watching MTV, as you do. And stumbled across this really interesting show, and if you thought I was meaning Jersey Shore - sadly not. It was called 'If You Really Knew Me.' I found it quite moving and very interesting. It followed five students from an american high school and got deeper into their lives and finding out about their struggles as a teen in high school. I think I liked the show not because it chose just the jock and the prep, but had five very different students who showed who they really were.
Toward the end of the show, the students and a variety of other students from the high school went to what was called a 'Challenge Day'. Where two leaders had them for a whole day explaining how most of the time people only show 10% of themselves and leave the other 90% out in fear that they may be judged for who they are. During this challenge day the big group was split into smaller groups where people were allowed to share their thoughts and let everyone in the group know who they really were, and if they really knew them they would know that......... One of the girls parents abused her for being a bad daughter, on of the guys said he felt shameful of all the hurt he had caused others from his consistent teasing, one girl lost her mother and sister in a space of two weeks, one guy got consistently teased for being a 'faggot' or being 'gay' just because of the way he dressed (He wasn't gay, he was completely straight), one girl (the prep) had to stay in motels with her mum when she was little just to get away from her dad.
In the end of the whole programme the students felt like they could be themselves without caring what anyone else thought and sought to make a change within their whole school.
Now I didn't just tell you all that for no reason, I told you because I thought it was moving and because it's slightly linked to my Nit Pick Time. So without further adieu.
Nit Pick Time: My nit pick today is about how people like to make themselves feel better, but at the expense of others. You know who I'm talking about or maybe you are the kind of person I am talking about. I mean where do these people get of? What makes them think it's okay. I guess some people do it to make themselves look cooler or better to others, some do it to get popular at school, but what are they really doing. Have they ever thought of the effects it may have on the other people. The one's that suffer alone with all the hurt they have caused them. Yeah it got them a few laughs and made them feel good, but they never stopped to think. It must make them feel vile and sick inside almost like you want to vomit, and if it doesn't then they are seriously disturbed. Why should they be seen as the cool, popular people at school who think its okay to bully the much smaller, not as popular, maybe not as pretty, maybe not as 'hot' people. This sort of behaviour is generally brought on from their own insecurities. And as insecure as they are I still personally don't think it gives them the right to harass, name call, purposefully try to make someone feel bad about themselves. For any reason whatsoever. Just think it may make them cool now, but how are they really going to feel a couple of years down the track. So my advice I guess, is if you are one of these people reach out to the ones you've hurt and offer your apologies, trust me it'll be a huge weight of your chest and not only will you feel good about it, so will the other person. And if you are one of these people who is constantly brought down by others, stand up for yourself and be who you are. There is nothing worse than being someone your not. So I hope this encourages you to speak up, start something at school for issues like this, stand up for yourself, be who you are and nobody else, make a conscious effort to not bring down other people.
So that's pretty much it, but I have a question.
If you were asked to share about 'if you really knew me', what would you say?
Much Love <3
Milly xx
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